Ten Ways to Keep a Relationship Interesting

Posted on December 11, 2013 by Rachel Dack

The beginning of a great relationship is often characterized as fun, interesting and exciting.

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The initial spark and romance brings excitement about long-term potential as you enjoy new experiences together and learn about each other.

As some of the newness wears off and you get into a groove as partners, it is only natural that your relationship will change and grow. All relationships go through stages, phases and transitions.

The hope is you and your partner increase feelings of closeness and security as your relationship develops, leading to close emotional connection and love for one another.

All relationships experience conflict and ups and downs.  With busy schedules, limited funds, kids, work responsibilities and more, it is important to make your relationship a priority.

So how can you keep your relationship interesting while standing the test of time?

Click here to read my full article on how to keep your relationship interesting and keep the spark alive with your partner, written for DatingAdvice.com, a leading online resource for dating and relationships, offering guidance by dating experts, how-to articles, reviews of the best dating sites and more.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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How to Handle Rejection in the Dating World

Posted on December 4, 2013 by Rachel Dack

Dating is the means to achieving what you ultimately want: to be loved and valued by someone you also love and value.

Unfortunately, along the way to meeting this special person, there is enormous potential for rejection,  making dating a vulnerable process. 

To put the odds in your favor of finding Mr. or Mrs. Right, ideally you will date a lot and keep an open mind about potential matches. It also means that you will have to take necessary emotional risks and learn how to handle rejection without giving up on love.

Although rejection is a part of everyday life, it can be the most distressing when it comes from a crush or someone who interests you.  The feeling of rejection is often accompanied by humiliation, shame, embarrassment, sadness and discomfort.  It is completely understandable that being rejected makes dating and meeting new people feel frightening. 

So how can you develop effective strategies to handle rejection (and not take it too personally) while not giving up on love?

To read more about how to handle rejection in the dating and relationship world and keep a positive mindset during the ups and downs of dating, click here to access my full article on Digital Romance Inc.’s website.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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Advice for Women: He’s Not Affectionate Enough

Posted on December 2, 2013 by Rachel Dack

When we partner up, we bring our unique personalities, qualities and preferences to the relationship. This includes everything from our food choices, hobbies, interests, movie selections and bedtime routines.

With every new relationship, there are issues to navigate. A common one women mention is their partner is not as affectionate as they would like.

Operating under the idea that  men are not mind readers is important here. As women, we can’t expect that men are aware of our personal needs, desires, wants and preferences.

Instead, relationships are most successful when you are willing to assertively and authentically verbalize your expectations and give your partner the opportunity to get to know this part of you.

Click here to read my full article on what to do when he’s not affectionate enough (and how to get on the same page about affection), written for DatingAdvice.com, a leading online resource for dating and relationships, offering guidance by dating experts, how-to articles, reviews of the best dating sites and more.

Happy Monday,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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10 Strategies to Boost Your Mood and Enhance Your Emotional Health- eHarmony Guest Blog

Posted on November 17, 2013 by Rachel Dack

Your mental health is a major component to the quality of your interactions with others. The healthier you are, the more rewarding your relationships will be.

Whether you are single, casually dating, in a serious relationship, married, separated or divorced, it is important to be there for yourself instead of relying on anyone else as your main support.

Regardless of your relationship status and relationship goals, there are simple, yet valuable practices you can adapt into your daily life to increase energy, well-being, and life satisfaction. Cultivating more health and happiness from within will naturally bring you more rewarding experiences in love and intimacy.

For the full article (including my ten tips to boost your mood and enhance your emotional health) featured on eHarmony, click here.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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How to Be Yourself on a First Date- eHarmony Guest Blog

Posted on November 10, 2013 by Rachel Dack

First dates symbolize new beginnings, excitement and potential for great love and friendship, although they can also be attached to a variety of fears, anxieties and insecurities. Many people experience challenges in dating, like getting involved with a potential partner too quickly, not knowing what they are looking for, lowering their standards or relationship requirements when thoughts of being alone sneak in or having such high standards that no date can meet them. A more realistic mindset, outlets for self-care and anxiety management, embracing singlehood (until someone really special is present) and pacing yourself while dating are helpful in eliminating common dating challenges. Most importantly though, it is essential to be authentic and clear about who you are when you are on a first date.

A first date naturally brings up nervousness – what to say, what not to say, what to do during a potentially awkward pause and how to avoid awkward pauses in general. Add in concerns about being liked, avoiding rejection and the fear of failure and a date can feel more like a dreaded chore or a task to avoid. Knowing that all of these concerns are valid and natural to the dating process can make the burden a bit lighter, but how can you focus your attention on being authentically you instead of getting caught up in all of the “what if’s” that distract you from the moment?

For the full article (including five tips to help you be an authentic dater) featured on eHarmony, click here.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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How to Develop a Healthy Mindset About Singlehood and Love- eHarmony Guest Blog

Posted on October 21, 2013 by Rachel Dack

I am constantly inspired by Dr. Wayne Dyer, who brilliantly stated, “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” If you read my previous article, you also know that I am an advocate for helping single individuals make powerful shifts to attract love into their lives, seek out the right relationship (vs. just any relationship) and decrease roadblocks in the way.

This brings me to several important questions: Do you tend to focus on not having love in your life now instead of your commitment to forming a loving relationship? Do you believe that because you are single now, you will always be? Do you feel torn between giving up on love and investing time and energy into dating?

If you answered yes to any or all of the above questions, you may be acting in ways that keep you single.

There is more to life than your relationship status, so it is important for your well-being and happiness to change the way you look at singlehood.

There are also other empowering ways to change your mindset about singlehood and love, including visualizing love in your life, honoring yourself and your need for breaks from dating/relationships while not giving up on your goal for love and embracing singlehood.

To read the full article, featured on eHarmony, I hope you will click here!

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

 

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Are Your Own Thoughts Creating a Barrier to Finding Love?

Posted on October 14, 2013 by Rachel Dack

I am a huge believer that our thoughts, attitudes and beliefs shape our world and the way we see ourselves and others. What we focus on in our minds expands into our lives and therefore, as a psychotherapist, I am a huge advocate for my clients making healthy mind shifts to powerfully create the reality they seek. For you, this might mean shifting your focus away from what is not working as you date to what is possible for your love life. This might also mean reevaluating the beliefs that guide your behaviors and actions, as well as the expectations you set for yourself or others.

So how do your thoughts, attitudes and beliefs affect your relationship status?

Our core beliefs drive the way we view ourselves, others and influence our interactions and relationships. We develop our core beliefs throughout significant events and experiences in our lives. We maintain our core beliefs by focusing on experiences and information that support them, while ignoring anything that contradicts them. In turn, these beliefs may become rigid, inflexible or increasingly negative if we are not aware.

You will naturally begin to behave in ways that are in accordance with your core beliefs, so if your core beliefs about yourself and love are negative, you might be facing problems in the love department.

To read my full article on how your thoughts might be interfering with your love life and roles in relationships, click here to access it on eHarmony.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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The Secrets to Attracting Your Ideal Partner

Posted on October 9, 2013 by Rachel Dack

As a psychotherapist and relationship coach, I really enjoy helping my clients increase their self-confidence.  A sense of confidence opens up new doors and new beginnings.  Operating on an “I can handle this” and “a glass half-full” mentality makes everything better, especially during the ebbs and flows of dating and relationships.

Your self-confidence is crucial to a successful dating life and attracting love into your life. Believing you are lovable, deserving and worthy of having the relationship and the life you dream of is one of the major ways of achieving these very things.

This sense of confidence is huge in taking the courageous leap from being unknown to your crush or potential partner to getting to know each other and forming a connection.

Simply put, what you believe you are capable of having or achieving in the relationship world is what you attract.

There are many valuable ways to increase your confidence, including engaging in positive thinking, taking steps to accomplish your goals, taking care of yourself, identifying your strengths and more.

Click here to read my full article about increasing your confidence and attracting your ideal partner, written for DatingAdvice.com, a leading online resource for dating and relationships, offering guidance by dating experts, how-to articles, reviews of the best dating sites and more.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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How to Learn the Dance of Dating (and get rid of the “dating game” approach)

Posted on September 30, 2013 by Rachel Dack

I cringe every time I hear someone describe dating as a game.  When I think of a game, I think of rigid rules and the idea of conquering or winning.  I picture players racing to score, trampling on the opposing team and cheering as they defeat others.  A game implies that there are winners and losers. 

Dating is not about winners and losers- it is about finding someone who enriches your life and vice versa.  I like to think of dating and relationship-building as a dance- representing the flow of back and forth, moving forward together in the desired direction. Ideally, there is a natural progression as the relationship develops without the pressure of a time line and rules about each little detail, including when to call, when not to call, etc.

I think it is incredibly useful to take away the game aspect of dating.  Dating is about uniting, connecting, engaging and emotionally coming together to see if you have long-term potential. Doesn’t that sound a lot more fun and inviting?

To read more about approaching dating as a dance (and not like a game) and to discover my five tips to help dating flow more naturally, click here to access my full article on Digital Romance Inc.’s website.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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Dating Advice for Men: Say Goodbye to Her Mixed Messages

Posted on September 30, 2013 by Rachel Dack

The topic of mixed signals is commonly brought up in discussions about dating.  It is a part of dating that can be confusing and frustrating, especially when you are interested in a woman and emotionally invested in her.

Mixed signals may take on many forms and are generally a combination of messages that are hard to decipher. They may be difficult to keep up with and leave you wondering about her level of interest in you and how she feels about you.

It is important to get to know her, view her behavior in context and also understand your potential role in her mixed messages, in order to better assess the situation. It is also valuable to affirm what you want for yourself and make choices that are in line with your own happiness and wellbeing.

Click here to read my full article about handling her mixed messages, written forDatingAdvice.com, a leading online resource for dating and relationships, offering guidance by dating experts, how-to articles, reviews of the best dating sites and more.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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Six Reasons Why Your ‘Relationship Picker’ May Be Broken- eHarmony Guest Blog

Posted on September 7, 2013 by Rachel Dack

In dating and relationships, you may look back and determine that you picked the “wrong” partner. Maybe you chose someone who looked good on paper, but was lacking relationship skills or was emotionally unavailable. You might have been blinded by his or her looks, status or financial stability and failed to see what was really going on. You may have enjoyed the challenge of pursuing someone who was not that into you.

Self-awareness tends to be the missing piece in attraction, partner selection, love, and relationships. Without understanding yourself and why you choose your partners, it is common to fall for the wrong men and women, repeat relationships patterns over and over again, and feel negatively about yourself in the end.  Without awareness, it is easy to end up in relationships that are not emotionally satisfying or protect yourself from fear of intimacy by unconsciously choosing the wrong partner.

For more on this topic and to gain insight into how and why you choose your partners or why you find yourself in unsatisfying relationships, click here for the full article.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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Are You Ditching Your Friends (and Your Life) for Your Date?

Posted on September 4, 2013 by Rachel Dack

Can you relate to the feeling of being completely energized and excited about a great new man or woman in your life?

It’s a wonderful feeling to find someone you really like. Often this feeling is accompanied with a desire to cancel everything else on your calendar, spend all of your time with this person, ditch your friends and more. Sound familiar?

Although all of the above is tempting, it is healthiest to pace yourself and resist the urge to neglect your life, friends, family, commitments, etc.  It is best for you and your new relationship (and your confidence) if you strive for balance, avoid losing yourself for someone else and refuse to ditch what is important to you. In turn, you will be a healthier, more engaged and attractive partner.

Click here to discover five reasons why you should not ditch your life for your date or relationship and read the full article, written forDatingAdvice.com, a leading online resource for dating and relationships, offering guidance by dating experts, how-to articles, reviews of the best dating sites and more.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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Ten Ways to Increase Your Self-Esteem- eHarmony Guest Blog

Posted on August 15, 2013 by Rachel Dack

Do you ever feel as though you’re waiting for someone to love and appreciate you? Do you feel “less than” because you are single and other people in your life are in relationships? Do you find that you wait for others to recognize your accomplishments before being proud of them yourself? Do you struggle to take care of your own needs because you feel unworthy?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you are not alone. Sometime we judge ourselves too harshly and compare ourselves to others, which only leaves us feeling empty or miserable. At times, we allow our relationship status, a harsh comment, negative feedback, a bad date or a missed opportunity to cloud over the sources of light and joy in our lives. These tendencies get in the way of true happiness and feeling good about what we have and who we are.

One of the ways to overcome this is by developing and maintaining a positive relationship with yourself and increasing your self-esteem. This involves tuning into and taking care of your own needs, accepting your strengths and weaknesses, recognizing your positive qualities and making choices that enhance your personal wellbeing.

For more on this article and to check out my ten tips for increasing self-esteem, click here.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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How To Tell You Are Ready To Date Post-Breakup

Posted on August 6, 2013 by Rachel Dack

Breakups commonly bring a variety of feelings, including shock, sadness, confusion and loneliness.  These feelings may be mixed with relief and clarity about what works and doesn’t work in relationships.

The time post-breakup is incredibly important for healing, grieving, learning, reflecting and growing.  Creating time to examine your past relationship and breakup is beneficial for your health and the health of your future relationships.  While this time is key for healing and closure, it is also important to motivate yourself to get back into dating when you are ready.

Many of my clients wonder how they will know when they are ready to date again, which inspired me to write about this topic and dig a little deeper into the common saying, “you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince” (or Mr. or Ms. Right).  Yes, it is generally true that you have to date and connect with multiple people in the dating world before meeting your ideal partner.

To read more about how to tell you are ready to date again after a breakup and to discover my four tips to assess your own readiness, click here to access my full article on Digital Romance Inc.’s website.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

 

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Why You Are Not ‘Doomed’ in the Love Department- eHarmony Guest Blog

Posted on July 25, 2013 by Rachel Dack

Too often I hear my clients verbalize that they are “doomed” in finding love because they are single. Of course it is not a simple cause and effect equation, but it seems like the human mind can make it into one if we aren’t aware. Some of my clients equate finding a partner with loving their lives and themselves. I can’t help but feel sad that they are missing the present moment and overlooking the fabulous qualities that they possess. They seem to be waiting for life to begin when love arrives and downplaying their accomplishments and strengths because they don’t have a partner to recognize them.

My role becomes helping my clients love and value themselves and their lives despite their singlehood (and the anxiety that it commonly brings). Our work together also involves separating their thoughts of permanent doom from reality and their goal to find love.

Although being loved is a human need, it does not serve us well to wait for someone to love us — instead, we are the healthiest when we cultivate love within. How can you be happy with yourself now and resist the idea that you are doomed in having love regardless of your single status?

For more on this article and three tips to bring love into your life, click here.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

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Five Reasons to Avoid Sex with an Ex (If it is true love and happiness you are looking for…)

Posted on July 22, 2013 by Rachel Dack

On the path to love, it is natural to go through periods of loneliness, anxiety and insecurity.  During these times, it is especially common to crave comfort, attention and connection.  These emotions are part of the process of dating, break-ups and single-hood and where these emotions lead you is what really matters in your health and happiness.

I’ve heard my clients contemplate having sex with an ex during these times, which is one of the reasons why I am excited to share my article on five reasons to avoid sex with an ex, written for DatingAdvice.com, a leading online resource for dating and relationships, offering guidance by dating experts, how-to articles, reviews of the best dating sites and more.

I hope you enjoy! As always, please do not hesitate to contact me with questions and comments!

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

www.racheldack.com

Welcome to Rachel Dack Counseling LLC’s blog, written by Rachel Dack, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (L.C.P.C.) and Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC).  Rachel provides psychotherapy and relationship coaching services to individuals and couples in her Bethesda, Maryland office and over the phone.

Please connect with Rachel by emailing Rachel@RachelDack.com, calling 301-655-8462 and following Rachel on twitter. Check back for more great resources, relationship advice and mental health tips!

 

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