Most people do not like saying no. In fact, many report it is one of the most uncomfortable words to say.
Several factors that make it difficult to say no include the need to please others or to be liked and accepted, the unpleasantness we commonly feel when we hurt someone, the negative connotation society has placed on saying no and the idea it is selfish to let someone else down or put your own needs first.
We may think we are protecting ourselves and others by being agreeable or saying yes all the time, but in reality we may be trapping ourselves in an inner conflict or actually neglecting our own needs, values and preferences.
This is all too common in the world of dating. Too often I hear women report that they give out their numbers, say yes to dates or continue to engage with men they have no interest in all because of the difficulties of saying no.
To learn more about the importance of saying no and to discover five helpful tips to gaining comfort in saying no when you are not interested in someone, click here to read my full article, written for DatingAdvice.com, a leading online resource for dating and relationships, offering guidance by dating experts, how-to articles, reviews of the best dating sites and more.
Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC
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