How to Learn the Dance of Dating (and get rid of the “dating game” approach)

I cringe every time I hear someone describe dating as a game.  When I think of a game, I think of rigid rules and the idea of conquering or winning.  I picture players racing to score, trampling on the opposing team and cheering as they defeat others.  A game implies that there are winners and losers. 

Dating is not about winners and losers- it is about finding someone who enriches your life and vice versa.  I like to think of dating and relationship-building as a dance- representing the flow of back and forth, moving forward together in the desired direction. Ideally, there is a natural progression as the relationship develops without the pressure of a time line and rules about each little detail, including when to call, when not to call, etc.

I think it is incredibly useful to take away the game aspect of dating.  Dating is about uniting, connecting, engaging and emotionally coming together to see if you have long-term potential. Doesn’t that sound a lot more fun and inviting?

To read more about approaching dating as a dance (and not like a game) and to discover my five tips to help dating flow more naturally, click here to access my full article on Digital Romance Inc.’s website.

Take care,

Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC

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